Making others happy – is it possible?
Ever get into a pattern of feeling that you need to make others happy and this becomes the total focus of your existence? You feel the familiar grip in your stomach when the person explains the level of stress or unhappiness currently experienced and you know you have no solution. So you search for little [...]
Belief can make a difference in your day
Your day starts out great and then some small speck of an event clouds your day. Your whole countenance stiffens and you resist, realizing it’s going to be one of those days. Stop and change your mind. You can think positively or negatively about events and even this small shift in perception will affect the [...]
Few financial planners talk about realties of healthcare
Many financial planners paint a picture of retirement as the “golden years”; as the years where we live out our dreams. Not many financial planners talk about the realities of healthcare including the personal, financial and emotional costs. Why bring up an unhappy subject when trying to build the case of saving for the dream? [...]
Women caregivers at a disadvantage in the workforce
Women, in particular, are at a disadvantage throughout our lives. We are traditionally the caregivers; whether it’s raising children, caring for a husband or caring for parents. All of these are noble actions and are usually done without consideration of the future. The disadvantage arises when women build careers, take time off to raise children [...]
Take a break from the stress of family relationships
Family relationships can be stressful. At times in my life I have purposely distanced myself from my family or family members in order to take care of myself even if only for a brief period of time. Sometimes family relationship difficulties just seem to be too much. Sometimes a sibling makes a statement that causes [...]
Changing sibling relationships effects parental caregiving
Everyone should be fortunate enough to have a Vicky in their family. This is the sibling who just wants everyone to get along. My sister Vicky does not like conflict. She would rather do whatever it takes to work through relationship issues. Vicky is the person who does her best to make sure we all [...]
Navigating change in parent – child relationships
So how do we navigate changes that occur within our families? Many times we withdraw into ourselves or become angry and the relationship stalls. How many people do you know who are estranged from family members over situations that went out of control. How often does this occur in our daily lives with people we [...]
Losing a sister still a motivator today
My oldest sister, Becky, took it upon herself to help me with scholastic endeavors. Whenever I needed help with school, especially deciding if college was important, she was there. My parents were high school educated and lived through the depression. They had to work to support their families, brothers and sisters and parents. When I [...]
Friday night football with dad and appreciating the little things
I was the youngest child, born nine years later than my next closest brother and sister. Because of this I had the opportunity to spend more one on one time with my father growing up. It was almost like I was an only child because the other children were in high school, had moved out [...]
Children from the same family have different perspectives
During the months of May and June, for those of us who still have parents living, we celebrate mothers’ and fathers’ day.During these months we share family gatherings. In talking to families it’s interesting to hear our perceptions of ourselves. The reality is that there is no normal family. Even in my own family with [...]
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